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We planned to have our kiddo. Both of us were adopted so we were excited about giving our child a better life. It mostly worked out. He was a great kid...funny, interested in the world, involved. His later high school years were tough. He lost interest in getting grades, developed a deep love of video games, and decided that his parents were the stupidest creatures on the planet. We made it through, though. He's working with unmanned aerial vehicles (Predator/Reaper) in the US Air Force now and we talk almost every day. We both miss his mom, but we are doing great.

If you do decide to have a child, please, PLEASE set boundaries for them! DO NOT allow them to rule the house, or you'll regret it for as long as you let them live.

Not so much...I was a foster kid from the age of about 6 until 11, then lived with the family that finally adopted me when I turned 16. Some foster parents were idealistic...giving the street kid a fair shot. Others were strictly in it for the money and were about as loving as an iron door. The family that finally adopted me and one of my brothers were Southern Baptist, and they did their best. You always kind of felt like hiding when you would be paraded around, or introduces as "our OTHER children".

My ex (rest her soul) had it much MUCH worse. Her dad basically gave her to the babysitter when she was two. He came back when she was three and signed the adoption papers. She was the youngest of four, and he couldn't handle a toddler, I guess. Her adopted family abused her...physically and mentally...for years. Actually, it is surprising that she turned out as well as she did. Her demons finally got her two years ago, and she ended her own life. We spread her ashes in the desert...one of her favorite places. We'd been divorced for a few years by then, but tried to keep in touch for our son. He lived with me, but visited her when the stars were aligned properly. Her family left it to us to deal with the major issues, but wanted us to let them have her ashes. I guess I won't be bothered by those brainless fucks again!

Bottom line...love your kids, fight for them, teach them, listen to them, and set absolute boundaries with absolute consequences!