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I agree with Kitty's assessment regarding that growth is important for this season. I do have a random comment on "growing up" in relation to biblical themes... and getting real, my very own personal biblical fact checker, feel free to correct me if I've gotten my paraphrasing wrong...

somewhere in the bible, there is a comment on growing up from a child to an adult, that one must leave behind their childhood things in order to be able to embrace moving forward into adulthood.

So, if this is true... those with a personal growth story... who has demonstrated this and who has not?

Has Sugar? I think so, she was unable to speak at her father's funeral, and has now grown up enough to be able to lay her father to rest and to speak openly about her feelings. As a child, she was unable to deal with her grief and unable to let go. As an adult, she has been able to move past that need and has been able to lay her father to rest.

Has Matty? I think so, he acknowledges that he has been afraid of growing, and has now learned and realizes that he is ready to be a man, and actually says this "It's time for me to grow-up now". He proposes / commits to marriage and fatherhood. He has moved from being self-centred (like a child) to a life-long commitment (as an adult).

Has Ken? I'm not so sure... while he is certainly more outgoing and self-sufficient and less dependent, he is still behaving childlike or adolescent and very ego-centric, instead of enjoying time with his loved one, he bombards her with strategy (his was the only family segment that was all about him). The expression on his sister's face clearly said "WTF.... aren't you gonna ask about home, or something?" Instead Ken tells her ..."they all love me" ... "I saved their asses" ... "I took out the 5 biggest bullies" ... "I'm the best strategist ever".

Further to this, his statements are over-inflated, the same way that a child would exaggerate a story. For example, by my count, Ken can lay claim to the Charlie vote (who is not the biggest bully!!) and maybe Ace (he had a hand in it, but Sugar is the one who came up with the plan and execution of it). Crystal and Susie are the ones who saved Ken's butt by getting rid of Marcus, and Randy was all Sugar & Bob. I wouldn't count Michelle, Gillian or Jacquie as bullies and Kelly was Ken's ally (so was Michelle). GC quit. Also - I cannot for the life of my recall where Ken saved Crystal's butt, and saving Sugar is dubious at best.... Matty told her (and us!) that Ace would not have voted for her.

In addition to this very self-centered and adolescent thinking pattern, he still refers to himself as a "gamer", a title that in itself is very child-like (ie, children play games), and a profession that is viewed by others as "child-like."

In this past episode, we saw both Sugar and Matty make moves towards adulthood by connecting to someone outside of their self and making an adult decisions about their future. In Ken's family moment, he doesn't connect with his sister, nor does he acknowledge that while he knows he is "here" he wants to be "over there" and he makes no moves or commitments to do so.




I may be off base here... but for me, this is the problem with Ken's edit.... the juxtaposition of Ken to Sugar & Matty's... and even Bob's... family visit was so jarring to me. Only Kenny is shown to have a strategy session with his loved one. And it's not even a strategy session, is more like a bragging session. "Look at me, Look at me." Even in China... Todd had a nice moment with his loved one, he was shown to be upset when he heard his sister lost her baby. This episode - for me - tells me that Ken is coming up short. He is being set up for a fall.