So I just found out tonight that my best friend's brother committed suicide a month ago. She has been depressed and hasn't been able to mention it
to anyone outside her family until tonight, and I was the first person she told. I was empathetic on the phone with her and asked her to get counseling via her
school's counseling center and had a long conversation about her feelings with her. I also ordered some flowers to be delivered to her and her parents
tomorrow.
My question is, what else should I do in this situation? Should I try and find a local therapy group of people that have had loved ones commit suicide? I
recommended group counseling for her and her parents to get them to actually talk about their feelings (her father would not go see one on his own) but I
don't know if there is anything else I should do in this situation and I figured maybe some of you may have been through this before.
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The Give Jibjab rl advice thread v9563.0
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Posts: 6309 (11/19/08 8:43 PM) Hellooooo Nurse |
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Posts: 8435 (11/19/08 8:47 PM) |
Just let her come to you when she needs to talk. There really isn't anything you can do.
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Posts: 1622 (11/19/08 8:49 PM) I'm not drunk
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You can't force anything on them, but it couldn't hurt to get the information on support groups and give it to her without any lecturing.That way if
she has the urge to talk about it, she has the info handy.
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Posts: 878 (11/19/08 8:58 PM) Registered User |
Kill yourself as well.
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Posts: 1209 (11/19/08 9:00 PM) |
Buttinsky wrote:X But send flowers first. |
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Posts: 53 (11/19/08 9:01 PM) |
She has every right to be depressed for a month...and longer. You already mentioned to her about school counseling-I wouldn't push it at this point re any
other type of counseling...or you might just push her away. Let her heal in her own time, just be available to her.
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Posts: 6808 (11/19/08 9:04 PM) Geenyus extraordinaire
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Geez jib, sorry to hear that. That's one hell of a tough situation.
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Remington Steele |
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Posts: 2148 (11/19/08 9:06 PM) |
jib has a friend?
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Posts: 11083 (11/19/08 9:13 PM) this won't end well.
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she's vulnerable right now...you should taste what you've been missing.
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Posts: 4220 (11/19/08 9:14 PM) On Probation |
how did she kill herself?
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Posts: 68 (11/19/08 9:22 PM) |
Have her register a screen name and start a thread about it here in OT. I'm sure the overwhelming positive advice and support she would receive from these
fine people would be just what she needs to get her through such a difficult time.
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Posts: 5866 (11/19/08 9:47 PM) Registered User |
You could take some weed over and hang out. At least that's what I'd want if I was her.
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Posts: 5540 (11/19/08 10:07 PM) |
Having been in your situation, there's nothing you can do at the moment. If they need help, you'll be able to recognize it, but as has been said in
this thread, you've done your part and this is a very private matter. The fact that she confided in your is a huge step for her, but really, you can't
do much of anything else on your part. Its up to her and her family as to what they do next.
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Posts: 399 (11/19/08 11:39 PM) |
You were empathetic?
Did someone close to you commit suicide or do you just not understand what empathy is exactly? |
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Posts: 12677 (11/19/08 11:40 PM) Registered user |
survivorjb2003 wrote:Just listen to her and let her talk. Make eye contact as much as possible. BTW I bold those words for a reason :) |
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Posts: 6310 (11/20/08 12:36 PM) Hellooooo Nurse |
Uhm because you like bolding words?
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Monsieur Muggles |
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Posts: 5548 (11/20/08 12:48 PM) |
Hi jibbers!
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Pseudo Propaganda |
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Posts: 290 (11/20/08 12:55 PM) |
Always be available to her if she wants to talk about it. A lot of people get uncomfortable and will change the subject if people start talking about
depressing stuff like that. Don't be one of those people.
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Link Please |
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Posts: 936 (11/20/08 2:01 PM) |
Jibbers' dad would know how to handle this.
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hwamf |
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Posts: 3423 (11/20/08 2:19 PM) FAQ bitcher |
The Annoying Hater wrote: What do you put on that card? Dear Mom and Dad, I killed myself. Hope you like carnations. Love, Jibjab |
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clever trousers |
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Posts: 749 (11/20/08 2:53 PM) Registered User |
Does she live close to you? If so, then go spend time with her at her home, make sure that she is eating, take her food, offer to clean up her home and do the
other "everyday" sorts of chores, in this situation those kinds of things become much harder. Do her laundry, wash the dishes, whatever. She is
probably not in a position to tell you what she needs or wants, so just do things like that and that is a huge, huge help.
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