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There comes a point when you miss the boat. Or the train. Or the bus.

There is a point in some of your lives when you realize you messed up. It occurs at different ages for different people but it hits at certain times.

For marriage, it's usually 40 for women. An unmarried woman of 40 has very little chance of marriage or even a decent relationship. She missed the boat, for whatever reason. I am sure she got asked, and maybe turned it down. Or never finished relationships, never let them get to the marriage point for fear of rejection or immaturity. Or just hung around the same old loser for years hoping he would change his mind about marriage and he never did, and now he isn't even marriage material. So marriage (and possibly children) are a moot point.

For men, the age is different. As we get older, our chances at decent women in general get less and less. I remember how extremely easy it was to pick up a woman at the age of 20 - 30 and how it was like a game, a fun game that got worse and worse as the years past, because it all merged into one. The same girls, the same apartments, the same tired old lines, the same exact pussy (yeah, it generally is) the same work it was trying to get her out of her clothes. The same condomed sex. You did not need to make her laugh necessarily, tell the truth about what you did for a living or how much you make, tell her your plans for the future, tell her even your real name...it was just a game. You win you lose, whatever. Time passes fast though. Once or twice you genuinely like the girl, but you know she does not like you the same way. Time passes, one dream thrown away, one LIFE option gone forever. Or two. Or three. Over the years they add up to quite a few.

Now you, as a man, are 35. Good job, yeah. But you life is still the EXACT SAME as it was when you were 23. WTF? Same apartment, same vacations, same phone full of numbers of useless potential booty calls and on-call hookers. Your friends, your good ones, moved on...marriage, kids, a LIFE. Yeah some fell off the boat, got divorced, now worse off than you and you feel justified that you MISSED THE BOAT. But there are those others...the ones who married a cool wife, the ones who have the cool kids, the ones who have a legacy and a mission to raise those kids to the best of their ability and to have someone to leave all your hard work and money to. Yeah...those are the guys who confirm that you MISSED THE BOAT.

Yet, your solace is filled with bars, broads and the same drunken weekend at the break of dawn throwing up and wondering what is the difference between now and when you were 23 right out of college. What is the difference? Are you REALLY happy? Did you find LOVE? Or are you drowning your solace in cute girls you BARELY are able to get now because of the pot belly and the hair loss (without throwing around a lot of money which does not make a relationship) and liquor and the HOPE that others around you see how "cool" you continue to be without knowing how empty it really is.

I said it before. You missed the boat because you never chanced to get on. You were a nerd, a dweeb, a lonely loser who thought he had "time" to find a girl to make a life with and found out that "time" moves faster than any of us thought. "I was gonna lose that weight so I can get out there" say the girls, who MISSED THE BOAT because they never got on, were always wondering why men dissed them, never fixed themselves, never got out there, never did anything thinking there was always "time" to do those things and get a good man.

TIME RUNS OUT. Over 35 it's now CRUNCH TIME. IT LOOKS BLEAK.

But you can still do it. Trying is better than laying on the couch, watching TV and waiting for death by drowning in porn, liquor, hookers and the farce of happiness in life. YOU CAN DO IT. Start today.