What you say is immaterial.
But, to do nothing is heartless.
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Posts: 4000 (10/20/07 8:10 PM) Registered User |
What you say is immaterial. But, to do nothing is heartless. __________________ Hey...4000!!! |
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RupertsScrotum |
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Posts: 2511 (10/20/07 8:16 PM) |
Send a Strip-O-Gram, she will need some cheering up.
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MMMadcow |
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Posts: 5058 (10/20/07 8:53 PM) Registered User |
If you can, stop by and extend your sympathies. If you can't, a card is sufficient. But do something. It's nice to know somebody acknowledges a loss.
If you DO stop by, don't go empty handed. Food is appreciated, but if you can't get to a deli or bakery, a plant will do. We've had a rash of deaths, it seems. The florist's in the area await my calls with glee. |
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pie123452001 |
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Posts: 21714 (10/20/07 9:14 PM) Registered user |
I always feel awkward in these situations.
If I see someone start crying, my awwwwllergies start going. |
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pseudopoganandra |
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Posts: 10089 (10/20/07 9:33 PM) Registered user |
I always send a big flower arrangement. Like 50-100 dollars worth. And I pick out the type of flowers I want in it myself so they don't send some crap
with carnations and gladiolas. Everyone I've done this for me always bursts into tears and gives me a big hug afterward so I figure it does the trick.
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dmb154678 |
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Posts: 26686 (10/20/07 9:36 PM) Registered user |
an edible arrangement sent to the house is a big hit. believe me. pay extra for the bananas.
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Jaleel Johanson |
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Posts: 1101 (10/20/07 9:56 PM) Registered user |
Ask her if her father's feeling under the ground. |
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 nomii |
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Posts: 1826 (10/20/07 10:22 PM) Registered user |
pay extra for the bananas.the father died not the fuckbuddy. |
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Jaleel Johanson |
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Posts: 1102 (10/20/07 10:30 PM) Registered user |
Send her daisy seeds. She can plant and water them and her father can help push them up. Should make for an excellent father/daughter project.... |
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MMMadcow |
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Posts: 5061 (10/20/07 10:49 PM) Registered User |
50-100 is the standard amount usually spent on flowers. At least, around here. Anything less, and you get a used vase with wilted flowers and a bent card.
Delivery extra.
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pseudopoganandra |
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Posts: 10092 (10/20/07 11:52 PM) Registered user |
You can get a decent enough bouquet for yourself for 25-30. But for a gift for someone else 50-100 is best.
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Suspiciously Anonymous |
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Posts: 1192 (10/20/07 11:58 PM) |
If your friend's not all sensy, this may help.
When my father died, I just wanted to go somewhere and be normal for a few. I didn't want flowers, casseroles, or fruit. I just wanted people to treat me like they normally did. I did appreciate all the nice things everyone did, but i remember every person who tried to make me feel like me. |
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cgnudumples |
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What do I say to someone whose father just died?So...Mom's single, eh? |
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Posts: 413 (10/21/07 1:20 AM) Registered User |
There's just nothing you can say to make anything better. Be a friend and send condolences, through a card, a call, flowers or be there. Think before you
say anything. Your friend won't remember a whole lot about this dificult time but there will be standout moments. Hopefully you can make them comforting.
Hearing "the good die young" or "he's in a better place" or "he's at peace now" or "he's not suffering anymore now" is appalling and really just thoughtlessly twisting the knife in a broken heart. Just my take. *shrug* |
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Karmapocalypse |
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Posts: 24 (10/21/07 1:28 AM) Registered user |
i say kill yourself as a sign of respectAgreed, seppuku is the only way to grieve. |
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OutwitOutplayOutlast |
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Posts: 1678 (10/21/07 1:55 AM) Registered User |
Just pretend she doesn't exist for a month or two, and wait for the whole 'dead father' thing to blow over. If you haven't talked to her in
a year, another few months can't hurt.
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TequilaVaquero |
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Posts: 1123 (10/21/07 2:09 AM) Registered User |
Just remember one thing, in cases like this, there is a huge difference between "I'm Sorry" and "I Apologize"
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Sigvold |
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Posts: 6667 (10/21/07 3:05 AM) Registered User |
Ask her how much she wants for her dad's car
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jgabler |
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Posts: 2769 (10/21/07 3:43 AM) Registered User |
"Listen, about your Father. If it's any help, he's in the ground now. Sure, it's bad news for him, but on the other hand, it's PARTY TIME
for all the little worms!"
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