Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (dragonsilk) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 14:28:22 GMT

First off, Hi Gwennie!!!!

Angela, where do you live that is republican in WI? I am sguessing North Milwaukee, like Mequon or River Hills.

I agree that you aren't ready to leave yet. I have been married for 13 years this year and we still have great sex (sometimes with each other!!!). It sounds like you need to sort some things out inside yourself first. Like how do you really feel about him. If the answer is that without the kids you would definately not stay...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (MrsSoares) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 13:50:08 GMT

Angela in WI wrote:
I am a believer in God. And I am turning this all over to him and praying and trusting that he will help us figure our way. I am not innocent in all of this. I have not really done anything the last few years to give to my husband. I have not tried to nurture him because I have not felt like doing anything caring towards him. I am now feeling like I want to do things for him and want to build him up, and I...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (chelleforrupert) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 12:31:41 GMT

Jeez. The bible thumping lady really gave you nightmares, huh?

Maybe you are feeling guilty about how you REACTED to way he treated you. Good luck.

Did you know Brett Favre retired?

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feeds@yuku.com (K1934) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 12:26:14 GMT

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 12:24:59 GMT

I am a believer in God. And I am turning this all over to him and praying and trusting that he will help us figure our way. I am not innocent in all of this. I have not really done anything the last few years to give to my husband. I have not tried to nurture him because I have not felt like doing anything caring towards him. I am now feeling like I want to do things for him and want to build him up, and I believe that is God working through me. I cannot make myself change the way I feel, but...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (nekey) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 11:15:00 GMT

Oh, please. Angela In WI is fine. I'm surprised no one has called dibs yet. (No, aldav does not count.)

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feeds@yuku.com (Lya Panzonfia) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 11:01:19 GMT

I don't know you or anything, but are you sure you'd be able to find someone else who's willing to have sex with you if you dump the hubby? I'm thinking it might be iffy.

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feeds@yuku.com (StatelyWayneManor) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 10:30:25 GMT

Hit Parader interview with Ozzy Osbourne...

Hit Parader: Billy Idol says he was a fan of yours at 15, but not at 16...
Ozzy: That's about right.

Feelings change over time. Some get stronger...some don't.
You will always have us, Angela.
Well most of us...I'm going to lunch.

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (MrsSoares) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 10:20:15 GMT

Well, your solution lies in what perspective you decide to use. I see you go to church... do you go as a true believer or just for show.

There is God's way to approach this... in which case, your ministers wife is absolutely pointing you in the right direction... or there is the worlds way... in which case, the people here at sucks are pointing you that way. Either road is a difficult one. I know, I have been there (I am heavily involved in marrage minsitry as a result of it)....

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (Gwennie) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:56:01 GMT

I think I feel sorrier for WatchingJen than I do Angela. WJ has convinced herself that her sexless, loveless marriage is good enough.

Personally, I think that, like with most things in life, if you have to ask yourself and especially others if you should do something...you aren't ready to do it yet. Divorce is a real biggie. I think you aren't ready for it yet. I think you should really try to make the marriage work....and if you get to the spot that you just can't...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (chelleforrupert) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:20:37 GMT

WatchingJen wrote:

Angela - I am very much in your position. It's ok, most marriages become unfulfilling at some point. So long as he's not abusive to you or the kids anymore and you get along reasonably well and he's being a good father, I do believe it's better for the kids to stay together. Who wants their kids living out of suitcases for their entire childhood being shuttled back and forth from place to...

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feeds@yuku.com (WatchingJen) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 08:52:31 GMT

Angela - I am very much in your position. It's ok, most marriages become unfulfilling at some point. So long as he's not abusive to you or the kids anymore and you get along reasonably well and he's being a good father, I do believe it's better for the kids to stay together. Who wants their kids living out of suitcases for their entire childhood being shuttled back and forth from place to place. It's easy for people to justify leaving a spouse with the idea that...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (PassionatePiscesMan) — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 08:28:07 GMT

You have disvoered there is no such thing as hot sex after marriage.
Go to splitsville. Then on weekends meet in a motel for hot fornication sex.

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (MsCatwoman) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 22:00:08 GMT

Angela, two things:

1. Several years ago I conducted evaluations of divorcing couples who were involved in child custody disputes. Time and time again I saw couples who intended to divorce amicably. They had the best of intentions. But as the reality of divorce sets in and the spouses started "negotiating" over who was going to keep the bed, the measuring cup (I kid you not) and the odd assortment of CD's, things tended to sour. If you do end up getting divorced,...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (aldav4) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 18:27:33 GMT

angela--you need cyber sex with me.
all of the fun of sex without all the messy guilt stuff with real sex.

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feeds@yuku.com (BillNyeSurvivorGuy) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 16:42:39 GMT

I probably shouldn't even say anything because I'm kind of a relationship n00b, but one thing that hasn't really been discussed is all the anti-depressants... those can help but if you have been on them for a long time and you are still depressed you should just detox off them because they could actually be doing you harm at this point.

There are better ways to fix your mind, look into meditation. Just take 10 minutes a day and simply meditate and breathe. And I like the...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (Mister Slippery) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 15:04:45 GMT

Angela in WI wrote:
Kind of a spinoff of my "is this possible?" thread.

Say you're in a committed, happy marriage. You have your valleys, but overall you have a good marriage. Why then would you meet a man somewhere, at a party or whatever, and instantly seem to have sexual chemistry? It takes you by surprise because you definitely weren't looking for it. Do you think it indicates that your...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (Snakes And Arrows) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 14:34:39 GMT

Other than your occasional potty mouth Ang, I think you're on the right track. Tell him you want to spend some quality time together a couple of times a week for starters, and take it from there. It seems to me that this is very savable, especially if he has truly changed in the ways you've said....

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 14:29:15 GMT

Exactly rugslug. I have been here at night because once the kids are in bed we just have done our own thing. Him either going out with friends or him working and me hanging here became habit and something to do besides just watch TV. I want to work on him and I spending more time together like we used to. And instead of him watching TV up in the master and me watching it downstairs and hanging with you all I want to start spending time with him and maybe even motherfucking cuddling. The big...

Re: Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (rugslug) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 14:22:49 GMT

Angela in WI wrote:
I know that is one side of the argument, that him and I are TOO GOOD to lead this humdrum life. But aren't our children TOO GOOD for us to not really try to save our marriage. Like I said before at least we are now starting to talk about all of this and what to do.

you have 20,000+ posts. Exactly how much time are you spending on your marriage or your kids?

Sexual Chemistry, good marriage and another man.

feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 14:06:01 GMT

Kind of a spinoff of my "is this possible?" thread.

Say you're in a committed, happy marriage. You have your valleys, but overall you have a good marriage. Why then would you meet a man somewhere, at a party or whatever, and instantly seem to have sexual chemistry? It takes you by surprise because you definitely weren't looking for it. Do you think it indicates that your marriage isn't as good as you think it is?