What do I say to someone whose father just died?

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feeds@yuku.com (thumbalenae) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 22:44:06 GMT

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Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (AeRo 21) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 22:42:49 GMT

I remember when my father died and this bitch told me "Well we are all gonna die".

Well NO SHIT, BITCH!

That is the worst thing you can say.

Just send a card and flowers... go to the wake too.

Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (thumbalenae) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 22:37:42 GMT

It's best to just to tell them you will be there for them anyway you can and you are very sorry for their loss.

I remember when my father died and this bitch told me "Well we are all gonna die".

Well NO SHIT, BITCH!

That is the worst thing you can say.

Sometimes just being there speaks more volumes than words can say.

Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (glazerboy) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 21:44:13 GMT

Jaleel made me laugh and now I feel like I'm going to hell.

"I'm sorry for your loss" is the standard line. Anything after that depends on how close you were to your friend.

Agreeance on the "he's in a better place" platitudes.

Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (Jaleel Johanson) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 21:30:22 GMT

Just get her local newspaper and find out where he's going to be interned. Next, buy a couple of those gag rubber hands from the local joke shop and stick them in the ground in front of his headstone holding your photo and your latest address and phone number. If she calls, you're all set.....

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feeds@yuku.com (IndifferentCow) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 08:28:26 GMT

But did they have a breathy screamy fight? I'd be respectful, that's me but maybe this "friend" is still pissed and would rather not hear from her. Just a thought.

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feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 08:24:51 GMT

regardless of how long you have or have not spoken with her, death trumps everything and you show up out of respect.

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feeds@yuku.com (IndifferentCow) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 08:20:59 GMT

Wait, you haven't talked in a year? Will she want to hear from you? I'd say if she didn't call you maybe she wouldn't care to hear from you now.
If she does, act normal...I hate overly emotional people.

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feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 08:09:27 GMT

I agree it is very thoughtful to do the wake for sure and funeral too if possible.

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feeds@yuku.com (MargueritaBlendedNoSalt) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 06:38:41 GMT

A plant and a card would be appropriate. When my Dad died there was enough food brought in that house to feed a small army. Are you attending the wake/funeral? That is a good way to show respect, just showing up.

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feeds@yuku.com (jgabler) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 03:43:54 GMT

"Listen, about your Father. If it's any help, he's in the ground now. Sure, it's bad news for him, but on the other hand, it's PARTY TIME for all the little worms!"

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feeds@yuku.com (Sigvold) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 03:05:47 GMT

Ask her how much she wants for her dad's car

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feeds@yuku.com (TequilaVaquero) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 02:09:36 GMT

Just remember one thing, in cases like this, there is a huge difference between "I'm Sorry" and "I Apologize"

Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (OutwitOutplayOutlast) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 01:55:00 GMT

Just pretend she doesn't exist for a month or two, and wait for the whole 'dead father' thing to blow over. If you haven't talked to her in a year, another few months can't hurt.

Then, call her to 'get back in touch', and be sure to never mention her father EVER.

ETA: Whatever you do, don't fucking apologize. I hate how this has become a custom to apologize when someone dies. Why should I apologize? I didn't fucking kill the person....

Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (Karmapocalypse) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 01:28:02 GMT

i say kill yourself as a sign of respect

Agreed, seppuku is the only way to grieve.

Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (NakedWench) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 01:20:49 GMT

There's just nothing you can say to make anything better. Be a friend and send condolences, through a card, a call, flowers or be there. Think before you say anything. Your friend won't remember a whole lot about this dificult time but there will be standout moments. Hopefully you can make them comforting.

Hearing "the good die young" or "he's in a better place" or "he's at peace now" or "he's not suffering anymore...

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feeds@yuku.com (cgnudumples) — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 01:17:38 GMT

What do I say to someone whose father just died?

So...Mom's single, eh?

Re: What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (Suspiciously Anonymous) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 23:58:12 GMT

If your friend's not all sensy, this may help.

When my father died, I just wanted to go somewhere and be normal for a few. I didn't want flowers, casseroles, or fruit. I just wanted people to treat me like they normally did. I did appreciate all the nice things everyone did, but i remember every person who tried to make me feel like me.

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feeds@yuku.com (pseudopoganandra) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 23:52:37 GMT

You can get a decent enough bouquet for yourself for 25-30. But for a gift for someone else 50-100 is best.

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feeds@yuku.com (MMMadcow) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 22:49:45 GMT

50-100 is the standard amount usually spent on flowers. At least, around here. Anything less, and you get a used vase with wilted flowers and a bent card. Delivery extra.

What do I say to someone whose father just died?

feeds@yuku.com (SnarkyMark) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 19:02:58 GMT

I heard her father died today through a mutual friend. She was very close to her father, but I haven't spoken to her in over a year. I want to say at least something (as I've been friends with her for about 10 years), but I don't know exactly what to say. And do I call her or do I send a card or flower arrangement or something or do I just shoot off an IM?

In before someone says "SAY 'LOL UR DAD IS DED SUX 2 B U!!!!!'"